Rooting for Yourself

Rooting for Yourself | The Urban Pig

 [image via Kristen Delap]

This week, there were a couple instances where I found myself being full-heartedly cheered on by a stranger. Each time started with a short conversation and for some reason, ended with the person showing their excitement for what I am doing and cheering me on to keep going, even when I think I am crazy. It is funny how a person we hardly know can be our biggest advocates and believe so much in what we are doing, especially when in our own minds we have so many doubts and worries. I felt so amazing after those conversations, thinking to myself, “Yes, I CAN do this!”

Yes, my friends, we can accomplish anything we set our hearts to. Today, I want to be your advocate and cheer you on. I want to let you know that I believe in your wildest dreams and I know you can make them happen if you truly desire to do so!

Slowing Down

Slowing Down | The Urban Pig

Lately, I have been proving myself wrong in many ways, mostly in the sense of my personality differing from what I have always described it as. I have always been a planner, and I still am in some ways, like with long-term goals. But this year seems to be a time of quick decision making, such as moving back from Denver, moving into a rental home (photos from around the house), starting my own business, and more. It’s been a lot of excitement, but at the same time it has left me in a state of mind where I feel like I have no idea what I am doing. I haven’t had the much needed time to digest each decision and really take in what is happening. It’s been kind of a scary thing for me! Luckily, everything is working out fine so far; my mind just needs to take some time to catch up with what my body is doing. I know how important it is to enjoy the journey of life events such as these and I really want to have that appreciation for the present time in which I am living.

After coming to this realization, I have definitely been able to clear some of the doubts in my mind. Those doubts like, “should I really follow through with this business thing?” (only because our income was a bit less than we wanted it to be to save for a house, then I realized it was definitely worth it), or “maybe we should just buy a house rather than build…” (again, I realized it will be worth it!). These doubts tend to creep up when I am exhausted and stressed like I had been the last few weeks. Once I had a tiny bit of time to sit and think and discuss them with Connor, we realized anything worth doing is not going to come easy, or quickly for that matter. So I decided not only is it time to slow down and give myself the opportunity to fight my fears rather than trying to suppress them, it is also time to slow down and see how far we have come and be okay with the fact that some things just take time! I am working hard mentally to change that timeline in my head that says I need to start building a house this year and have a fantastic business at the same time. Of course it is dreamy to think about, but really not practical in reality. All we can do is work toward those goals and in time, they will be achieved.

Slowing Down | The Urban Pig

Slowing Down | The Urban Pig

In the meantime, there is always so much to be thankful for, we just need to soak it in and count our blessings, even the small ones. There will be a time to stress about the happenings in life, and it is easy to get caught up in trying to keep up with everyone around you. But remember to take a deep breath every once in a while, focus on yourself and do the best you can.

Spirit in the Sky

Spirit in the Sky | The Urban Pig

Sometimes we choose to hide our feelings away rather than pick up the pen and express them. And sometimes, you can’t keep pushing those feelings out because they just keep re-emerging until you acknowledge them. It is sort of funny how it happened…

While soaring through the clouds in the airplane on the way to Vegas last week, I couldn’t help but feel the presence of an old friend who passed away just over a year ago. I started to think about it and realized his spirit always seems to keep me company when I am near the sky.

He was often with me when I lived in Colorado. I always felt his presence as I looked to the most beautiful mountains on my daily drive. He kept me company during my commute but sometimes made me cry.

When we moved back to Spokane, I stopped feeling his presence. It was like we went back to normal elevations and I wasn’t close enough to the mountains in the sky to feel him any longer.

But then, I took this flight, and his spirit decided to visit me again. And out of the airplane window, all I could see was the mountains.

At one point in my life, he was my best friend. And at one point in Connor’s life, he was his best friend. And then, he introduced us. I owe him all of the happiness he has given us and I hope he knows how thankful I am to have known him. I will never forget his smile, laugh, and jokester positive attitude despite his health which he struggled with his entire life. He had big dreams for a teen who knew there was only a short time to achieve them and he lived every day like there WAS a tomorrow for him. It was this kind of example that he set and why so many called him a friend. I miss him very much and I think about him every day.

2014 Step 1 – Simplify

2014

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I found this graphic at the beginning of the new year, and at first, it didn’t mean much to me. But as time passed, this image kept popping into my thoughts. The more I thought about it, the more I felt inspired by it. I was trying to think of what each of these mean to me. I began to read it as steps; a process I could divide the year in sections with, and focus on each part. The end is a result of the beginning.

Step 1: Simplify
I mainly think of this one, because it is where I am in life right now. Things are hectic, crazy. Great, but busy. I think of simplifying as a cleansing pallet. Start the year fresh by cleaning, organizing, and simplifying. I currently find myself needing to simplify some of those “adult” responsibilities — mostly bills. It feels like every time I open the mailbox, all I get is bills flying in my face (Harry Potter Hogwart’s letter status). It does nothing but stress me out, but Connor and I figured out a way to get bills less. That’s right. It’s called paying it in full. We did this when living in Pullman with our car and renters’ insurance. It was so nice not to get that bill for a whole 6 months to a year. We plan to do that again, plus adding a few additional bills we have accumulated with this owning-a-house thing. Simplify bills.

After work, I come home and always feel like there are so many things I need to do. Over the last week, there is only one thing that has saved me. This image that reminds me to focus. Focus on the task at hand rather than getting overwhelmed with a whole list of things. Taking baby steps. Despite only having a few hours each night after I get home from work, I feel like I have accomplished a lot. Mainly because I have been focusing on one task a day, whether it is big or small, I try my best to complete it, or at least get close. There have been things on my many to-do lists that have been waiting to get completed for weeks. They are finally getting done. Slowly but surely. Steady wins the race.

I have put off a few projects in the meantime, because I feel like that will come later with steps 2-5 (be inspired, be original, work hard). I can’t seem to focus much when these basic housekeeping items are cluttering my mind. My goal of simplifying really boils down to the end result of having a clear mind and more time to do what matters. Simplifying is a complicated process in itself, but I think the outcome will be beneficial.

Because I am not quite at the point to continue onto the next steps, I don’t want to say too much, since I have yet to experience them. But here are a few ideas:

Step 2 (Be Inspired): An outcome I foresee from simplifying. A clear mind filled with good things. Inspiration, ideas, thoughts, feelings, creativity. A powerful feeling it is to be inspired. A feeling like moving mountains, or the possibilities being endless. Motivated and excited to begin. Hopeful for something to come. Accomplished by doing. Paint, draw, sing, write, dance, hike, experience.

Step 3-4 (Be Original, Work Hard): Why do I only sometime run full-speed ahead with my inspiration? Why is it that some things get left behind and lost? The inspiration disappears. This is an important step for me–to hold on to that inspiration. Work hard on things as they happen, not putting them off for a later day. Because I might not ever get around to it, and if I do, I might not feel the same inspiration as I did before. Work in the moment, the present day, not thoughts for tomorrow. As important as it is to be inspired and moved by others, it is equally important to be original. Take those ideas and build, develop, evolve, and change them. Grow your inspiration. Be inspired by yourself, your surroundings, your dreams. Immerse yourself.

Step 5 (Enjoy): Reward yourself for working hard. Reward yourself while working hard. Have a lazy day. Have a lazy week. Watch movies. Cuddle. Go out with friends. Go out with yourself. Take in your accomplishments and appreciate your life and your blessings. Life is great. Don’t forget that.

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Since Last Sunday

Since Last Sunday | The Urban PigRemember at the beginning of the week how I wrote about Moving Forward and making changes in life to the things I am unsatisfied with? I have been thinking a lot more about this idea. I started by writing a list (oh, lists) of things I want to change and things I want to do, and for each item, I brainstormed ways of making it happen. It provided a lot of clarity on the specific things causing me stress, unhappiness, etc. It allowed me to pinpoint these items exactly and focus on ways in my power that I can do to make them better. Since writing this list, I have started making those changes, and although it still takes some patience for each aspect to work itself out, I feel more in control of each situation (which always helps) and it feels nice going back to the goal-setting and seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.

Example A: This whole home-buying thing. Totally stressing me out. Mainly because we aren’t finding our dream home. Typical first-time home buyers, I know. So this morning, we re-organized priorities and really talked each thing out. We came up with this awesome idea of a weighted point system, so when we see a house we like, we can basically “score” it according to our criteria we came up with, and it will help us be a little more objective on such an emotional process. I get attached to things too quickly, so this is what I need to guide us in our decisions. I might share this rubric we created at a later time. We will see how it works, first!

Anyway, looking at each item in my life individually rather than being stressed out about life as a whole has helped so much. I just wanted to update you all on that, and maybe you will find it helpful to break things down and build them up as well. In the meantime, we stopped yesterday to celebrate Connor’s birthday at Dave and Busters. He was so excited to have not just one, but two in Colorado, especially coming from a town where they played the commercials, but didn’t have a location anywhere near us. He wants to make it a birthday tradition. Even I will admit, it was a pretty fun place. Good food, fun games, good service. Can’t be beat!

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